Simple—forgiveness and reconciliation. Of course, it is not simple. Things that matter, seldom are. If they are worthwhile, the concepts may very well be simple, but the processes needed to bring them to reality never are. And this idea of forgiveness is monumental in its importance and in its difficulty.
Some time ago, I wrote in another medium that our country has forgiven every enemy combatant except one. We have forgiven the British (twice), the Germans (twice in two world wars), the Russians, the Italians, the Mexicans, the Japanese, the Chinese, the Vietnamese, the Iraqis, and the Afghans, et al. And we might yet forgive the Taliban. The French must be in there somewhere! Interestingly all of these foes are now our allies.
But there remains one foe not yet fully forgiven? The South.
Interesting isn’t it. I wonder why it is still so?
Slavery? That would be the apparent reason—and a good one. It should take a lot to forgive the owning of one human by another. Isn’t 150 years long enough?
I know it is easy at this point to declare that I am a far-right redneck racist. I am not, nor have I ever been. Business and Government were racist before the Civil War and have remained so the 150 years since. Count me among those who declare that institutionalized racism is a disease that must be erased.
I do not personally ask for or require forgiveness because I am a white Southerner, but the South’s dead Confederate ancestors, do.
I was going to title this, Confederate Dead Matter, too. However, I do want folks to continue reading my blogs, so I strategically placed it in the middle of this piece! I do believe that it is time to forgive the Confederate Dead. As in every war, there were Confederate fighters who dishonored the designation of officers and soldiers during and after the conflict. But, oh my, so many of the officers and the men they commanded fought honorably. Did you know that Robert E. Lee disobeyed Jefferson Davis to surrender his Army of Northern Virginia to General Grant at Appomattox Court House? Is that not honor?
With this sense of honor and reconciliation, Gettysburg National Military Park was established to honor all who fought honorably and fell there in those rolling hills—Union and Confederate. As the Confederate Army withdrew from Gettysburg, numbers of Southern doctors surrendered to the Union Army to treat the hundreds and hundreds wounded of both armies. Is that not honor?
There is no more appropriate symbol than Gettysburg for our country as we move toward reconciliation, forgiveness, and recognition of every human’s divine personhood. At Gettysburg, I felt a kind of reverence that is difficult to define. It was much like the feeling I had at the Lincoln Memorial, and at Appomattox Court House.
Appomattox and Gettysburg are full of honor and reconciliation as they should be. When General Lee agreed to surrender sent by written letter to General Grant, General Grant allowed General Lee to choose the place of their meeting. Isn’t that honor?
Before the surrender document was signed, these two former comrades talked for thirty minutes, reminiscing about a time when they had fought together against Mexico. After the surrender document was signed, General Lee asked General Grant for two things not in the conditions of the surrender: that his officers be able to keep their horses because the men had supplied their own mounts and would need them to plow their fields. And, he asked General Grant for rations because his men had been eating roasted seed corn for two weeks. General Grant ordered 20,000 rations to be sent, and he told Lee if he needed more, he needed but ask. Is that not honor?
General Grant could have imprisoned the entire Army of Northern Virginia after they surrendered, but he did not. Instead, he sent them home to their families and farms, and when his Union soldiers began to jeer at the defeated Rebels as they marched away, Grant put a stop to it by declaring that, as of this day, they were now all Americans. Is that not reconciliation? Is that not honor?
The monuments all around Gettysburg honor soldiers who fell from both armies. The memorial to Alabama’s sons is no less significant than the monument to fallen from the 18th Massachusetts Volunteer Infantry Regiment. They are equal in death and in remembering the sacrifices they gave there on three days in July. Is that not honor and reconciliation?
The Confederate Dead were not evil men beyond redemption because they fought for an evil cause. They were flawed humans who made tragic mistakes that linger unforgiven 150 years later.
Those flawed men and women deserve forgiveness if today’s collective national redemption is to take root and grow.
Now—this day–we must forgive. All of us must patch up old wounds and harmonize with grace and forgiveness.
Is that not honor?
On Thu, Jul 9, 2020 at 3:14 PM Southern Exposures wrote:
> Mickey Dunaway posted: ” Simple. Forgiveness and reconciliation. Of > course, it is not simple. Things that matter seldom are. If they are > worthwhile, the concepts may very well be simple, but the processes needed > to bring them to reality never are. And this idea of forgiveness is” >
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Really enjoyed this piece Dr. Dunaway, great insights. I have so many personal thoughts AND questions, similar to the ones you posed at the very beginning. Our great Union is not perfect, and as you say, we clearly need to fix institutional racism. But, at this point, it feels as if those old grey ghosts and their horses have become scapegoats for something else. Like your “Rock and a Hard Place” position, those that truly hate this administration to their very core are mounting these scapegoats in a ride similar to Sherman’s March to the Sea (aka Scorched Earth Campaign). Frustrated that a not very “progressive” Joe Biden somehow and regrettably emerged as their Don Quixote, they aren’t waiting and are burning down the damn windmill themselves – literally…and if Biden slays that dragon, well great – they made their point: “We are mad as hell and aren’t going to take it anymore!” At the end of the day, I don’t think its really about those symbolic monuments. Its the fear of losing again when ironically, the North won long ago. No, I don’t see that forgiveness you are seeking on behalf of those grey ghosts, happening any time soon. They need those horses…er scapegoats to “plow their fields” too.
So well said my friend. So well said.
We do not have to single out Southerners for racism since this is universal in our culture.
The southern officers trained at West Point chose regional loyalty and the preservation of slavery over union. I think we should think about the choice they made and not honor that. I think we need to dwell on that before we can forgive them. Honor in an unjust cause is still participating in an unjust cause and shameful.
The southern states are begging to own up to their history. Hooray to Mississippi and the states that are taking down statues. Also to the military and nascar.
Forgiveness is difficult because the north and south are culpable. The whole culture needs to understand and change. Forgiveness is. It the issue.
That is the first step in the process.
I am talking about honoring their initial choice, how they performed in the midst of the unholy war. Once again, you fail to acknowledge the forgiveness we have give every battlefield enemy throughout our history but not the South. You make my point better than I. Forgiveness always begins with those who have been harmed. Is anger understandable? Surely. But unless that anger is transformed by the Almighty into grace-filled unexplainable forgiveness, removing all the statues in the country will have no effect except to transform them into a unsustainable wall of continued misunderstanding.
Your best ever. Thanks for writing this. I pray that everyone reading it will “take it to heart.” Alas, my fear is that those who need to read it the most will never see it. Keep up the good work.
Thanks so much dear friend.
A double wow!!! So well said. It’s such a shame that those that need to read this will never see it. Having been raised and taught southern history by my mother’s southern mother I grew up with a pride and respect for those that answered the call to serve the the South.
Thanks Larkin. Your thoughts are much appreciated. Please feel free to share as often as you can.